My Facebook news feed runneth over with opinions and outrage over the recent light sentencing of the Stanford student found guilty on three counts of sexual assault. I won’t rehash that – You’ve read plenty already I’m sure. So many things to be angry about here like white privilege, rape culture, binge drinking, inability to accept blame for one’s actions, consent and what it is or is not.
As someone who works with students in a university setting, all the arguments and excuses that come up during a sexual assault investigation are familiar to me. I think what makes this crime really dig into my heart is that SO MANY of them are in this case. This is like a case study to end all case studies when it comes to how certain types of people are able to get out of horrible things and somehow continue to remain completely oblivious to the wreckage they leave in their wake. Part of my job is to educate the students in my care, and we all know simple can sometimes work best for busy folks with short attention spans. Therefore, to assist everyone who finds themselves in the same confused and deluded boat, trying to sail away from responsibility on the river of Denial, I bring you a short primer on what to remember when you find yourself on top of a person who is unconscious (BESIDES quickly getting help to make sure they are okay). Feel free to use as necessary.